You know how you hear something and it all makes sense?
I had that experience recently at Problogger when Trey Ratcliff was talking about critics and he came out with this stunner of a phrase.
“Got haters? Fight back with awesome.”
Huh. It hit me like a lightening bolt.
It’s a brilliant idea. It’s right up there with Gandhi’s ‘peaceful protest’ concept and the Christian faith’s ‘Love your enemies’.
Why have I not taken this to heart before?
So I started applying the principle. And not just for those who are critics and those who are out with the hedge clippers trying to knock me down and into shape. (A nice little topiary is not my thing!) I started applying it broad brush style.
But to everything that was frankly, a bit crap.
Not to say that there aren’t enough critics to keep me busy applying this principle. There are heaps of ’em and it has become a little wearying. The hardest thing of all is when you’re trying to do something new and wonderful and the detractors are there basically saying ‘naff off we don’t want you on our patch.’
But now…out comes my super stash of awesome. For every criticism I will bring out the big guns; more help, more advice, more support… I’m feeling more determined than ever.
I’ve also started applying it to the negative tough stuff in my life right now. It’s no secret that this year has been a doozy – with moving and illness and financial stress. So instead of crumbling I’ve grabbed my awesome dipped arrows and chucked a few out of my quiver.
Have to move house when we are still struggling to get the business (x2) up and running, and the kids have exams?
Bam go the awesome arrows.
But at least the new place is not far from the old house. And it has a great view still. It’s closer to the beach. It’s older and tireder so we should be able to live in it a little more easily without watching every little knock. And it’s cheaper so we should have more money to meet our expenses and maybe even live a little.
Having to pull on the purse strings and limit the household budget to accommodate the move?
At least it’s summer and we all need to lose weight (except my Englishman who urgently needs to put weight on!) so we’ll swap the fillet for fish and soak up those EFAs and delight in less calories.
Blog been down after a nightmarish migration?
Bam….heard this morning that it’s gone UP in the Top UK Blogs’ index put out by Ebuzzing. Yup, it’s now within the top 100 Parenting blogs in the UK. Not bad for a blog based in New Zealand. See the wee badge over there >>>>
Having to give up my much-loved ensuite bathroom?
Bam… Oh wait.
Can’t think of an upside to that. Hate sharing my bathroom with the kids and their idea of what constitutes a clean bathroom. I do not agree that wet towels belong on the floor where they can happily accommodate a population of germs of legion proportions.
Ok, so there will always be things that are hard to look on the bright side of, but generally speaking this awesome trick is going well.
Is there something going on with you right now that you can fight with awesome too?