It’s not about the chocolate

My Englishman and I were tackling the domestic preparation for the upcoming Easter weekend.

Easter daffodils

Easter reminds us of rebirth

These conversations are often fraught and this one was no less so. I tried to lasso him into it by asking him to put some moolah into the joint account for groceries.

“It’s Good Friday tomorrow,” I say hoping that hint will be enough.


I pull the lasso back in and retie it, then hoick it out for another go.

“I haven’t done any shopping for Easter at all.”

Hint. Hint.

“We don’t need to have Easter. Aren’t they all a bit old for that?”

My face fell. My eyes bulged with incredulity.


My eyes narrowed.

“I don’t think you can grow out of Easter eggs. I mean obviously the Easter bunny doesn’t visit any more, he’s buggered off with Santa Claus and the Tooth Fairy. But we still give each other Easter eggs.”

I’m quietly dying inside, considering an Easter without my favourite dark chocolate. Don’t want none of that milky crap. It has to be like my coffee (and how I used to want my men, before I met my Englishman) – dark and rich.

“We stopped celebrating Easter after I turned 16 or so” he says.

I’m shocked into silence!

We stopped having pudding when I turned 10 or so because my mother decided her girls didn’t need the extra calories..but to not have Easter? I’m sure he’s mistaken. He probably just doesn’t remember.

I hushed his mouth with a kiss, grabbed the keys and went out to face Sainsburys. On the drive up the road I reflected on our conversation. Is it possible to grow out of Easter? And is Easter really all about the chocolate?

I’ve always been a huge fan of Easter. In fact I prefer it to Christmas. Not just because it is the central theme in the Christian faith, but because it is really the central theme in life itself. The answer to the age -old question -‘Why do we die’ is simply ‘So we can be reborn.’

The Phoenix myth – of birth, death and regeneration or rebirth – is a feature of all of the major religions and belief systems, with the obvious exception of atheism, and is also confirmed in nature. I love seeing that confirmation all around me that life is good, especially when I’m feeling down.

When the kids were little and we lived in New Zealand, Easter fell in Autumn and I would take the time to pot some daffodil bulbs for the Spring in September. Throughout the wet and often cold winter months I would be reminded that Spring relief will come every time I looked at the pots on the patio, and when the first new shoots appeared it felt as if I was experiencing the Easter miracle all over again.

Easter is a celebration for those ‘try-hards’ who just feel ground down by life’s trials. For those who struggle with ilness, and lack of money, and loneliness and isolation.

I’m one of them.

Easter offers hope that one day things will get better. That one day Spring will come and the dark winter of our discontent will pass. Easter isn’t ‘owned’ by the Christian religion, it’s echoed in every belief system, just as hope is. And it seems to me that chocolate is the perfect reminder that life is good. If not good right now, it will be eventually.

What do you think? Do we ever grow out of Easter?

And what’s better – Easter or Christmas?



'It’s not about the chocolate' has 14 comments

  1. April 5, 2012 @ 7:15 pm Steve

    You can never be too old for chocolate. Chocolate is eternal. Like taxes.


    • April 9, 2012 @ 8:04 pm vegemitevix

       I find chocolate leaves a far less bitter aftertaste, than taxes.


  2. April 6, 2012 @ 6:07 am Sarah

    Never too old for chocolate 🙂 And love your uplifting thoughts on Easter too – I shall get myself some bulbs to plant this weekend 🙂 

    P.S. Hope you get some rich dark stuff too 😉

    Sarah x


    • April 6, 2012 @ 1:56 pm vix

      Thanks Sarah, yes there must always be room in our lives for hope, love and chocolate. 🙂


    • April 9, 2012 @ 8:05 pm vegemitevix

      Absolutely agree that you’re never too old for chocolate


  3. April 6, 2012 @ 9:20 am Claudia McFie

    Never grow out of Easter!  

    I’m reminded about the dedication CS Lewis wrote in one of his Narnia books: My Dear Lucy,I wrote this story for you, but when I began it I had not realized that girls grow quicker than books. As a result you are already too old for fairy tales, and by the time it is printed and bound you will be older still. But someday you will be old enough to start reading fairy tales again…Keep reading fairy tales, and enjoy the chocolate.


    • April 6, 2012 @ 1:58 pm vix

      I’d forgotten about CS Lewis’ dedication, that’s absolutely gorgeous and how thrilled am I that my post reminded you of it. 🙂 Thank you for commenting and have yourself a chocolate filled (and hope filled) Easter. Vix x


    • April 10, 2012 @ 8:31 am vegemitevix

      I had completely forgotten this dedication, and feel really thrilled that this post reminded you of it. Thanks so much Claudia


  4. April 7, 2012 @ 5:49 pm Jody Brettkelly

    My friend sent me some Pineapple Lumps from New Zealand for my 50th birthday and they never made it to the fridge. Not you never do grow out of choccie!


    • April 9, 2012 @ 8:07 pm vegemitevix

      The perfect gift. You’re never too old for pineapple lumps


  5. April 9, 2012 @ 5:26 am Ca4ole

    I just wanted to thank you for following my blog.  To “spread the love” I have clicked through to some of your commercial content.
    Carole’s Chatter


    • April 9, 2012 @ 8:06 pm vegemitevix

      Thank you for doing that, keep your eyes peeled for NZ ad content.


  6. April 11, 2012 @ 8:32 am Nicola De Gouveia

    Growing up, Christmas was always bigger in our house than Easter. Now, looking back, I think that also had to do with the fact that the church we belonged to didn’t have a cross at the pulpit, or anywhere else for that matter, as the feeling was to concentrate on the birth of Christ and not the death – I think that was it anyway, but as chilren, we always had Easter egg hunts and even though we don’t have the hunts anymore, we most certainly have the eggs! Of course you can never grow out of chocolate! Impossible!
    As always, I just love your blog! (Makes me feel very inadequate about my own! Best I dash off to blog about something!)


    • April 11, 2012 @ 12:52 pm vegemitevix

      It’s lovely comments like yours that inspire me to blog. Thank you so very much. x NB/ What would you like to know about blogging if you could ask? I could chat with you via email one to one if you wanted or could write a follow up to the ‘So You Wanna Blog’ post.


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