Two Sides

I’m stunned.

Sure, I understand that the internet is a public place. I understand that divorce effects everyone around the fighting couple – their children, their Aunts and Uncles, their family friends.

People take sides. They decide for whatever reasons, known only to themselves that this one is right and that one is wrong. In a funny way it’s important that both divorcing partner has cheerleaders. I even rang my ex’s family when we first separated because I was concerned about him, and felt they needed to get involved and support him.

I wasn’t prepared for the nasty attack on me in my last post.

I should have been prepared that it would happen eventually, but somehow I wasn’t. Somehow I thought that my ex’s supporters – whoever they are – would respect that this is my little corner of the internet. I don’t try to paint his point of view.

I know he has one, and it is valid.

But this is my space. Commenting here and being so hurtful feels so very much like being hounded. I admire your loyalty to your friend/relative but don’t understand your need to be so hurtful to me.

You are absolutely right By Stander, there are two sides and you can only see one.

I’m sorry if my reaction was swift, all I can say is that I felt shocked and hurt. But I would ask that you please don’t come back here again. You see, I need my friends, and supporters too.

And your facts are not right.

Remember there’s two sides, this is only one of the two, but it’s mine. Please leave me alone with this small corner of the internet.


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'Two Sides' has 38 comments

  1. May 6, 2010 @ 10:47 pm jfb57

    Brave & strong response! Thinking of you!

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    • May 7, 2010 @ 6:51 am vegemitevix

      Thank you. A little raw this morning, but I get up again, no one’s ever going to keep me down.

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  2. May 6, 2010 @ 11:47 pm jfb57

    Brave & strong response! Thinking of you!

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  3. May 6, 2010 @ 10:52 pm Jen Walshaw

    It is so hard, been there and done it. The internet makes the world a much smaller place. I am thinking of you

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    • May 7, 2010 @ 6:53 am vegemitevix

      Thank you. I do try to keep in mind that the internet is public, I honestly didn’t think I’d really said anything untrue. Everything I said actually happened!

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      • May 7, 2010 @ 7:08 am Jen Walshaw

        Thats what I thought too, in fact everything I said was true and I would and do stand by it, but things get skewd and the person who got hert the most wasnt my MIL, but my darling MadDad. Dont worry about it, its about the battles that win the war, but it is hard not to take it to heart.

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  4. May 6, 2010 @ 11:25 pm Cate

    Hang in there girl!

    [[hugs]]

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  5. May 7, 2010 @ 12:01 am Nickie

    Just caught up with this – hope you’re ok, mate x

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    • May 7, 2010 @ 6:54 am vegemitevix

      Thanks Nickie. I’m like a skittle. Knock me over, and I just get up again. xx

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  6. May 7, 2010 @ 1:01 am Nickie at Typecast

    Just caught up with this – hope you're ok, mate x

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  7. May 6, 2010 @ 11:52 pm themadhouse

    It is so hard, been there and done it. The internet makes the world a much smaller place. I am thinking of you

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  8. May 7, 2010 @ 12:25 am Cate

    Hang in there girl!

    [[hugs]]

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  9. May 7, 2010 @ 6:45 am scribblingmum

    I thought your response was very well done strong lady.

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    • May 7, 2010 @ 6:55 am vegemitevix

      Thank you. You probably won’t realise how much your support and all the others here really means. It’s a lifeline.

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  10. May 7, 2010 @ 7:02 am bronagh

    A classy and well spoken response. ::hugs you::

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    • May 7, 2010 @ 7:11 pm vegemitevix

      Thank you so much for my virtual hugs. I needed them, and relished them today. xx

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  11. May 7, 2010 @ 7:40 am utterlyscrummy

    Sent you an email rather than risk a long and rambling comment. Kia kaha hun. Don’t let the buggers get you down. Arohanui from Michelle & my whanau xx

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  12. May 7, 2010 @ 8:14 am Steve

    Your restraint and clear headedness is admirable.

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  13. May 7, 2010 @ 9:13 am vwallop

    Feel for you today. Horrible to have unwanted people poking their noses in. You’ve done nothing wrong by having a blog. Remember that. And you’re doing your best in a not very good situation. Have courage and look after yourself x

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    • May 7, 2010 @ 7:13 pm vegemitevix

      Thank you! I did what I think you might do in the same situation, I went for a drive in the country amongst the fields of green grass, blossoms and rapeseed. Beautiful and calming. Thank you for your support. Looking forward to catching up next week xx

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  14. May 7, 2010 @ 7:45 am scribblingmum

    I thought your response was very well done strong lady.

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  15. May 7, 2010 @ 7:51 am vegemitevix

    Thank you. A little raw this morning, but I get up again, no one's ever going to keep me down.

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  16. May 7, 2010 @ 7:53 am vegemitevix

    Thank you. I do try to keep in mind that the internet is public, I honestly didn't think I'd really said anything untrue. Everything I said actually happened!

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  17. May 7, 2010 @ 7:53 am vegemitevix

    Thanks Cate do you know people who could go around to his place and sort out the problem! Do you people in the refuse industry?xx

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  18. May 7, 2010 @ 7:54 am vegemitevix

    Thanks Nickie. I'm like a skittle. Knock me over, and I just get up again. xx

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  19. May 7, 2010 @ 7:55 am vegemitevix

    Thank you. You probably won't realise how much your support and all the others here really means. It's a lifeline.

    Reply

  20. May 7, 2010 @ 8:02 am bronagh

    A classy and well spoken response. ::hugs you::

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  21. May 7, 2010 @ 8:08 am themadhouse

    Thats what I thought too, in fact everything I said was true and I would and do stand by it, but things get skewd and the person who got hert the most wasnt my MIL, but my darling MadDad. Dont worry about it, its about the battles that win the war, but it is hard not to take it to heart.

    Reply

  22. May 7, 2010 @ 8:40 am utterlyscrummy

    Sent you an email rather than risk a long and rambling comment. Kia kaha hun. Don't let the buggers get you down. Arohanui from Michelle & my whanau xx

    Reply

  23. May 7, 2010 @ 9:14 am Steve

    Your restraint and clear headedness is admirable.

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  24. May 7, 2010 @ 10:13 am vwallop

    Feel for you today. Horrible to have unwanted people poking their noses in. You've done nothing wrong by having a blog. Remember that. And you're doing your best in a not very good situation. Have courage and look after yourself x

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  25. May 7, 2010 @ 8:11 pm vegemitevix

    Thank you so much for my virtual hugs. I needed them, and relished them today. xx

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  26. May 7, 2010 @ 8:11 pm vegemitevix

    Thanks hun, you're a rock. xx

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  27. May 7, 2010 @ 8:12 pm vegemitevix

    Thanks Steve, you frequently cheer me up!

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  28. May 7, 2010 @ 8:13 pm vegemitevix

    Thank you! I did what I think you might do in the same situation, I went for a drive in the country amongst the fields of green grass, blossoms and rapeseed. Beautiful and calming. Thank you for your support. Looking forward to catching up next week xx

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  29. May 7, 2010 @ 10:14 pm utterlyscrummy

    More of a boulder really. LOL

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